 When it comes to predicting whether or not a heterosexual romantic relationship is going to last, the female partner's friends seem to be particularly astute, according to new study findings.
The couple's joint friends are often good at predicting the success of the relationship as well, researchers report. ``People often turn to their friends for social support; however, we don't always believe that relationship 'outsiders' can offer truly useful insight regarding our own relationship,'' lead study author Dr. Christopher R. Agnew of Purdue University in Indiana said. To investigate, Agnew's team performed a study of 74 male-female couples and their network of friends, including both their joint friends and their individual friends. All of the participants, including the couple members, were asked to give their perceptions about the couple's relationship, rating factors such as the male's and female's commitment to each other and their closeness. Study results show that the perceptions of the couples' joint friends and those of the female's friends were more successful in predicting the relationship's fate through the next 6 months than the perceptions of the male's friends. Furthermore, the perceptions of the female's friends remained significant predictors of the couple's fate even when the couple members' own perceptions were taken into consideration. What's more, the female's friends' perceptions of the couple's commitment and closeness also significantly predicted whether or not the pair would break up. The reason for this may be that couple members have a ''tremendous personal stake in the romance that clouds (their) judgments regarding it,'' the researchers suggest. The female's friends, in contrast, are ``less biased'' and are therefore able to make more successful predictions, the authors explain. In addition, women, in comparison to men, are known to share more realistic and more intimate information about their relationships with their friends. Thus, her friends may have more access than his friends to the relevant information on which their relationship predictions are based, Agnew and colleagues point out. In other findings, couples with a higher number of joint friends were more committed, satisfied and invested in the relationship, and were more likely to have remained together by the 6-month follow-up. For those with a significant number of individual friends, however, ``don't be too quick to discount the relationship assessments of your friends,'' study co-author Dr. Stephen M. Drigotas in Texas said. ``They might have an accurate glimpse into what sort of relationship you have with your partner.'' (Agencies) | 最近一項(xiàng)科學(xué)研究發(fā)現(xiàn)，在男女雙方戀愛中，女方的閨中好友能夠更準(zhǔn)確地預(yù)言這對戀人未來感情的發(fā)展。 研究員稱，戀人雙方共同的朋友通常也同樣能夠較準(zhǔn)確的預(yù)言這對戀人的戀情是否能夠成功。 該項(xiàng)研究的主要發(fā)起人，印第安那州普度大學(xué)的克里斯托弗·阿格紐博士說："雖然人們在社交活動中經(jīng)常向朋友尋求幫助，但通常我們并不認(rèn)為旁觀者能夠真正了解他人的戀情。"  為此，阿格紐博士的研究小組組織了74對男女戀人和他們的朋友進(jìn)行調(diào)查研究，這些朋友包括男女雙方共同的朋友和他們各自的朋友。這些參加調(diào)查的人，包括戀人們自己，都預(yù)言了他們戀愛的結(jié)果，其中包括男女雙方對彼此感情的投入以及他們的親密程度等。
試驗(yàn)后的6個月中，戀人們感情發(fā)展的實(shí)際情況表明，當(dāng)初雙方共同的朋友以及女方朋友的預(yù)言比男方朋友的預(yù)言要準(zhǔn)確。 而且，女方朋友的的預(yù)言甚至比戀人們自己的預(yù)言還要準(zhǔn)確。 此外，女方的朋友除了能夠準(zhǔn)確預(yù)言戀人雙方對彼此的感情投入程度和親密程度之外，還能夠準(zhǔn)確預(yù)言這對戀人最終是否會走向分手。 研究者認(rèn)為，戀人們本身之所以不能準(zhǔn)確的預(yù)測自己戀情的發(fā)展，正是應(yīng)了"不識廬山真面目，只緣身在此山中"這句話。 相形之下，女方的朋友可以更客觀的看待他們的戀情，因此能夠更準(zhǔn)確的預(yù)知他們戀情的發(fā)展。另外，和男性相比，女性朋友之間的交流更加實(shí)際、更加親密。因此，阿格紐博士和他的同事指出，戀人雙方中女方的朋友會比男方的朋友更加了解他們的戀情，因而能夠在此基礎(chǔ)上做出更準(zhǔn)確的預(yù)言。 研究還表明，擁有共同朋友較多的戀人們對自己的戀情更加忠誠、滿意和投入。在預(yù)測試驗(yàn)結(jié)束后的6個月中，他們的戀情會相對更趨于穩(wěn)定。 該項(xiàng)研究的另一位作者，來自德克薩斯州的大學(xué)史迪芬·德里戈特斯博士說："對于戀人們來說，可不要小看你們各自朋友對你們戀情的看法，因?yàn)槟銈兊呐笥押芸赡軐δ愕膽偾橛兄翡J和客觀的看法。" （中國日報網(wǎng)站譯） |
Updated: 2001-12-10 01:00
